God has a plan for each and everyone. The best by far to find your plan is seeking your personal relationship with God through Jesus and acquiring knowledge of the scriptures. Attending church is wonderful but the Pastor has a responsibility to keep the members together and the bills paid or else the church doors shall close with the members going astray. You are responsible for your soul and that is between God and you. Yes, give titles and offerings to your church for it is the bride of Christ but put a nose in the bible daily and pray. One can be raptured up spiritually into the clouds to be with the Lord daily.
To be in the spirit with the Lord is to hear your plan and receive precept after precept until all mysteries are revealed concerning the plan that God has for your life. I realized that I was not listening long enough. I would hear the world rushing into my conscientious then hang up on the Lord God. Finally, I learned to listen even if it took three days; usually then, the noise of the world had died out.
We also have our heavenly language where one can go in private and speak in tongues. The Holy Spirit shall make intercession between God and you in a manner that the devil can not hear nor ever know what had been said by the Spirit. Exercising your heavenly language is very power because you are showing faith by opening your mouth and speaking outward into the world even by being alone. At first, you shall feel the censorship on your mind then you feel the brake-though.
God deals with each soul personally. Being a member of a church only increases your chance of being born again. It’s like those at the airport have the best chance of filling the seats on the flights. As one learns to talk with God in the name of Jesus worldly entities become secondary with God being the definitive person. One then realizes that comparing themselves to persons in the world was a drag down and God is an uplift.